The two bedroom apartment and the job I had were because of Thom. We built a life together: eating breakfast, driving to work, eating lunch, returning home, eating dinner. His reliable presence smothered me.
But the alternative was to return home.
“Now, will you marry me?”
Why not, I thought.
love’s blind artisan
stokes furnace, raising ashes
thirst’s empty vessel
brimming in complicity
Madame Pele’s dormant wrath
Tanka inspired by an extract from The Unhappy Wife, by Dr K E Garland. The book is a fictionalised account of the real lives of 12 women who are/were in unhappy marriages, and includes an afterword by relationship coach Anita Charlot. The extract is from Chapter 4, capturing the world of one of the ‘voiceless’ wives. I am currently reading my paperback copy and loving the insight into the characters and unique circumstances that have caused the dysfunction in each relationship. Kathy has done a great job distilling the essence of her wives (as she calls them) and painting their unique shades of unhappiness in an engaging read. If you’d like to order yourself a copy, head to kegarland.com.
This is the first of an ongoing (and occasional) feature, called Half a Haibun. I look forward to getting stuck into this collaborative project, with bloggers I admire submitting prose that I will use as inspiration for a tanka or haiku. The intention being that together, we’ll create a whole; 2 halves converging to add a richness and complexity to one another, in the form of a haibun. Look out for more from December 2016 onward, as my November is all about THIS.
Great idea. I look forward to the next one!
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Thanks Bob. I’ve been meaning to email you! 😊
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I may be slow to respond, but I will! Am in New Mexico, about to attend a conference.
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A poet’s conference? PoCo? Loco PoCo? 😊 thanks…
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Well, it may be loco. Only time will tell. But yes, a poetry conference.
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I’m sure some wine and lymrics will get the party started! There once was a poet named Bob….
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Ha! I think I’ll pretend I’ve not seen this.
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Some things can’t be unseen
Who ate chilli until he would sob…
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Nicely done and the book sounds like something I would enjoy. I’m cheap though…best see if it’s in the library!
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Awww Marissa! It’s not at the library. Cheaper on Kindle, if you’re an eBook reader 😉
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Right, don’t know why I didn’t realize the book was written by a fellow blogger.
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It’s possible. I just chose not to do it.
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Thanks Marissa. Yes, I think you’d like it! Hoping you’ll be a half a haibun collaborator too 😊
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Thanks again for this blogging support! And yes, “MY WIVES” lol Hope your 1/2 a haibun is successful. Now, off to schedule my November encouragement for you 🙂
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You’re welcome- so excited for you and I really value our friendship so it has been my pleasure xx
Thanks in advance for scheduled november encouragement. Yikes- now I can’t pretend the idea never happened 😯
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That is such a beautiful haiku. I felt like I was staring at a master painting. So captivated I was with the words. You’re a gifted writer.
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Thank you so much SB. You really are too kind. Hope to work with you sometime in the not too distant future xx
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Reblogged this on K E Garland and commented:
…then there was that time you wrote a book and your new friend you met through blogging felt inspired to create half a Haibun. Ta Mek! I certainly appreciate it 🙂
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Thanks Kathy for the reblog, your friendship and the inspiration 🙂
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Can’t wait to hear the feedback from when you complete the book
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Thanks Tareau. I have finished the book actually – it was a good read even if at times I wanted to close my eyes and not witness some of the relationships unfold into inevitable unhappy ever after. Kathy told the stories well and what I found interesting was just how one sided a lot of the stories (if not all) came across- a lesson there that whenever we tell our stories (as the women did), a lot of the times the answers to why things happen the way they do requires viewing things from a range of perspectives. These women actually chose these men but I got the feeling that they weren’t really examining their own choices but painting the picture of how they were victims of bad marriages. They’re the characters though, but back to the writing- Kathy really distilled the stories to give us a sense of each woman’s married life, with enough details in exchanges with their husbands or their general life perspectives for the reader to paint the remainder of the story and imagine what the backstory might have been before these women met their man (or men in one case). I also found it made me think about my own relationship and how it might come across to a reader who reads it not knowing myself or my partner. Have you read the book? If so, what’d you think?
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Mek, a clever review! I wonder why it is that people are so interested in other people’s relationships? Do you think it’s a voyeuristic gene that we all carry? Could it be that we somehow feel ok with our own relationships if we see that others don’t always get it right or is there a feeling of smugness if we get it right and others are plainly not doing so? What you have written just threw up all these questions for me. I’m not expecting you to have all the answers.
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Thanks Marie. Can’t speak for everyone or their genes, but my interest is in human behaviour- what drives people to be a certain way and do certain things- I like observing and understanding. Seeing another relationship (good or bad) doesn’t make me feel better or worse about mine- but if I learn something which I then apply to my life- that’s where it can influence my relationship.
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Yes you make a good point Mek. Totally unrelated: we haven’t spoken patois for a while, wha a gwarn? (what is going on?) I thought that was our special thing. LoL xx
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I and I been so busy! Bless up Marie xx
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One Love, Mek! All is forgiven with this small offering from you.lol Den mek you so busy?? (translation: then why are you so busy?) Rhetorical question … xx
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You just wanted to use the patois version of ‘mek’ right? How have you been? What’s new in your world? Happy to take patois lessons from your reply. One love 🙂
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Now how did you guess that Mek? Mek you so clever eeeh? hahahaha
I have been on a roller coaster girl. But I am still holding on for dear life …I still count my blessings though. How about you? Is the little one keeping you on your toes? And no, I don’t mean your latest book review! 🙂
One Love! x
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Hold on, life is like that…
Little one is always keeping me on my toes – he is lots of fun 💕
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Yes I know. But I’d rather be on the Merry Go Round – far more calming and slower paced!
Fun is good! :)xx
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Great collaborative project – you’re right: as a reader of both your work and Dr. K E Garland’s I’m feeling all kinds of delicious complexity from your offerings! Thanks! I look forward to enjoying more of “half a haibun.”
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Thanks so much Leslie. Would you like to collaborate? I’ve just been too busy to email but I’ve been meaning to ask you. 😊
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Leslie, you can call me Kathy lol have you read the book? I’m looking forward to reading your half a haibun 🙂
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Kathy, Kathy, Kathy! I do have the book but haven’t read it yet. I plan to get to it, soon,🙂.
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Thanks Leslie! I know we’re all busy. I look forward to your read and comments 😊
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I would be honored to collaborate with you☺️!
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Yay! and I am truly honoured that you would. Thank you so much Leslie! I will email you soon to get the conversation started. 🙂
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I love this, Mek – I think many women can relate to it in some way from some point in their lives. And I am warmed to know it is the product of collaboration between friends. You and Kathy are both very talented women.
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Thanks Payal, yes, so easy to settle with the pressure to fit some kind of ‘normal’. The stories in Kathy’s book were really eye opening- always easier to spot a train wreck either in hindsight or when observing others. Thanks so much- it has been fun working on a few posts with Kathy- she’s an inspiring woman. You are on my hit list of people to ask if they’d like to collaborate- might fill any awkward silences when we meet on tuesday- so looking forward to it xx
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I don’t think there will be any awkward silences at all. Or any silences at all because we will have so much to talk about. I am looking forward to it very much. And am so flattered to be on your hit list 🙂 xx
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I know ! I’ll have to make sure I get back to work on time haha. I have been so slack contacting people aside from a couple and no that isn’t to do with preferences, just how it panned out. Order in which they happen will totally be driven by inspiration of both parties…no schedule or commitments! Have a lovely night xx
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Thank you!
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The Thank you was to Payal ^^^ For some reason, I can’t get it to reply to her comment.
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I’ll pass it on 😊
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Kathy says thank you 😊
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